Is Shyness a Psychological Issue?

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Have you felt apprehensive at a party? Are you self-consumed and preoccupied with the thoughts of what others are thinking of you? Well, if so you must be shy. Shyness is categorized by the fear of facing public, fear of being insignificant or fear of being worthless to others. If you are inhibited, you will experience these. There is turmoil inside yourself concealed by your exterior which stops you from thinking clearly and sometimes makes you freeze in conversations. Your heart pounds fast and you find it difficult even to speak a word. You constantly keep judging yourself and develop negative thoughts about yourself. You spend most of your time thinking about yourself that is what others think of you and it might seem to you that everyone is constantly staring at you. You may appear snobbish or egoistic to others perhaps you are actually not and the fact is that you are just anxious.

Symptoms of shyness

You dread among people who are strangers to you and fear to gel with people who are outgoing. You may be comfortable only with a few set of friends and find yourself tongue-tied among a group. You will desire to overcome the inhibitions but mostly it ends up in vain. You avoid meeting new people, parties and social gatherings. You will also have physical problems like heart palpitations, flushing, pulse speeding, digestion problems and sweating profusely. You are more concerned on your looks, how people view you and how you sound. It may also include fear of being regarded as foolish, unattractive and not sensible. Your voice may go low, inability to have eye contact; you mostly avoid volunteering and social meetings. The fear of being criticized stops you from doing anything and blocks your flow of thought. You lack emotional intelligence and cannot control your feelings.

Even a very simple task as going on a tour with friends or talking to a relative may appear as a huge burden that is to be accomplished. It is appropriate to bring in the term ‘agrophobia‘which is the fear of getting embarrassed and people with this phobia is considered as shy. Some people may actually not appear to be shy perhaps they are. You may seem to be at ease while speaking but actually you engage yourself in self-deprecating inner dialogues and keep questioning whether the person whom you are speaking to really likes you. The persistent fear of being scrutinized or negatively evaluated makes you have a low self-esteem.

Social Anxiety Disorder

Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD) may be considered as extreme shyness that jeopardizes your career, future and life. People with social anxiety disorder complicate life. You end up with distress and your performance gets affected. It is also categorized by panic attacks and sometimes stammering while speaking. People who suffer from SAD may be identified by any of these two categories, one those who fear social gatherings and the other who fear only performances. Panic attacks only occur due to intense fears. Most people with SAD are young adults and often wrongly assume the cure as using alcohol and drugs. Emotional symptoms of social anxiety disorder includes intense worry for days and weeks for an upcoming social situation, extreme fear that you are constantly watched and fear that people may notice that you are nervous. Physical symptoms include dizziness, reddening of face, trembling or shaking and fast breathing. Behavioral symptoms include avoiding social situations, needing a person who will accompany you all the time in all social meetings. You start personalizing things for yourself and over think about a particular situation. You also fear that you may mess up any time. You think that people are focusing on you and any mistake done would be criticized which is actually not the reality.


Face your fears

Staying away or avoiding is not the solution for your anxiety. So be courageous to face the fear and try to cope up with it. Once you continuing doing this, you will eventually realize that the fear disappears.

Try to Socialize

Socializing is the best cure for anxiety disorder and try to arrange outings and parties to socialize. Do not fail to attend weddings, parties and social gatherings. This will help you to get away from social anxiety disorder. You can travel more, explore places, be adventurous and enjoy your vacations rather than staying at home which makes you depressed.

Meditation and Yoga

Meditating regulates your breath and keeps you calm. Meditate with one hand in your chest and other hand on your stomach. While breathing in your stomach should expand and while exhaling it should compress. Do remember that you should breathe in through your nose and breathe out through your mouth.

Sleep a Lot

Sleeping refreshes your mind and soul. Get adequate sleep that is eight hours a day. If you are deprived of sleep for days together it might be risky for anxiety.

Stop Over thinking

Remember that everyone has their own worries and they are more bothered only about their own issues and they hardly have time think about you and judge or criticize you. So stop over thinking that you are constantly watched and criticized.

Mistakes are Common

Everyone does mistakes and it is quite natural, you need not fear of doing mistakes and remember no one is too perfect that they do not even do a single mistake.


Medications are not a cure for anxiety disorders as stopping these medicines after taking them for a period brings back the symptoms and the problem will not be resolved. Anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medicines are used in rare cases but mostly advised to be avoided.

The only solution for the problem of shyness or anxiety is to change our mindset and the way of thinking. This is not a serious issue if you stop over thinking and concentrate on your present work.